Thursday, July 28, 2011

Reality Check At 53

Well, tomorrow is my birthday. I will be officially 53. I am sure that sounds young to some of you and dreadfully old to others of you.

My sons, Joel and Kyle, have been trying to get me to go to a football field with them to throw ball around again. I haven’t thrown a football at all in nearly a decade. Many of know you I played for years and at one time could actually toss a ball a fair distance and hit a moving target in stride. I spent more years catching and running with the ball but I was always pleased that I could chuck that pig about 57 yards till I was about 38 years old. Not too bad for an ex-receiver?

About a decade ago, I discovered that I couldn’t do that anymore. I had to warm up like crazy even to throw 30 yards or the pain in my shoulder would nearly kill me. If I was lucky, I was able to throw around 40 yards but I had trouble when a receiver tried to make a direction change to run to daylight. I just didn’t have the power to make the corrections and place the ball where it needed to go. Often, I would just drop my arm and hold on to the ball in quiet disgust (not always quiet) of myself.

I am getting older.

The worst thing about discovering that I couldn’t throw as well was that … I could still see everything that I should be doing clearly. My brain new exactly how to make the adjustment to make the throw. I just couldn’t do it anymore.

So, I haven’t showed up to that field with my sons yet. I will. But I am dealing with it in my head a bit before I go. I may have to warm up way too long and I am trying to prepare myself for only being able to throw 20 yards. If it’s worse than that … I can already hear my sons saying “Good afternoon, Madam, thanks for dropping by here before Mom forces you to go grocery shopping for her”!

Don’t think this aging thing is swallowing me up or anything. Because it isn’t! I’m OK. I am not one of those who is in depression over the coming of another birthday. Nor am I depressed that I am unable to make the practice squad for an NFL team.

I know some things in my future are on the down swing. And that’s OK! I think you get to some point in life and realize that some of the things you thought were important … really aren’t. In our parental youth, we can often fill our lives with activity and busy-ness by chasing after what we believe are the most important things in life. Only to discover that we had let more important things slide.

I do understand that there is by design a bit of a reality check as we age ... an awakening of sorts! It's ... HEY, I’m really not gonna live forever! This should be life altering when it hits you. I think you miss the point if you just keep doing the same things. So, here’s how I look at my life now.

In fourteen years, I will be 67. Lord willing! I am just picking a number out there in the future to make a point. Now, when you are 53, you DO realize that 14 years isn’t a long time from now. So, If someone were able to walk through a cemetery and see my name etched on a stone in 14 years … no one would say, “My, My, NikonSniper sure died young”. In fact, there are many people don’t even live till they are 53 years old. We aren’t invincible! In fact, I was thinking of getting a football jersey with the name “VINCIBLE” on the back because I realize my eternal destiny keeps getting closer.

Now … this isn’t said to be depressing or to be the “Debbie Downer” of the Internet! I am only saying this to state that I clearly realize that my time is short … so, I realize that the words I say now need to be a little less “willy-nilly” than my youth. I’m saying … I want to make sure that I maximize the communication of my love for my family and to do this by stressing what I know to be the most important decision they could ever make in this life. That is a clear and bold choice for Christ alone!

I also want to be clear with all whom I am fortunate enough to encounter in life’s remaining days. This includes you! Follow me here.

If I truly believe, AND I DO, that Jesus is the only way to get to heaven (John 14:6, Acts 4:12), shouldn’t I want to tell you? I mean, if I say I care about you, AND I DO, and I truly believe you might have missed the most important decision in life, … Shouldn’t I say something?

If I truly believe that a wrong choice for your eternal salvation would lead you to a horrible eternity, … Shouldn’t I say something? Not according to the world! The world wants me to shut up. I know that!

The world says, “Just tell people you care about them, even help them with a little cash when they are struggling (if ya have to), … but don’t try to tell them anything that will assist them in finding the source of real love and eternal treasure.”

You can call me a hypocrite! I fall on my face all the time. I’m not perfect. But I know the King of Kings. I know the Lord of Lords. I know the author of life. I know the deliverer of lost sheep. I know the One who lifts the broken-hearted. I know the ONLY way, the truth and the life. And one day He will make me cease to stumble. And Jesus can deliver you from whatever life’s trials are and grant you eternal life in His presence.

And if I don’t tell you about Jesus … I should be considered an even bigger hypocrite! If a “believer in Christ” ISN’T telling you about Him, you should be asking them, “Why”?

That is what is important to me in my remaining days here. I must declare to you that I can’t throw a football … but I know Jesus! I am not speaking to you today of fuzzy feelings. I am talking about the Lord who died for your sins, If only you will accept it and allow Him into your life.

No one will care in eternity that I could throw a football when I was young. The only thing that will matter there is what I did here with God’s Son, Jesus Christ. These are the most loving and caring words I can urge you to hear. The world insists I am not politically correct! But Jesus is ALIVE! Something happened 2000 years ago that shook up the world … and He is still ALIVE and coming again. I hope you will seek Him today.

Your friend.
NikonSniper Steve

17 comments:

Anash said...

happy birthday to you..dear nikon snipper...
I adore most of your pictures and photos ...i know i cant afford to go to US..but by looking at those pictures..I enjoy the views as much as you did...through your lense..keep up

ShEiLa said...

WE (my hubby and I) can relate to this post. I called Tony in here so I could read most of your post to him.

HE let me know that it is especially hard for men who are used to being so active. With HIM it is his two sons trying to get him on the court for a game of basketball... and he just can't muster the inner desire knowing that the outcome could mean injury.

It is so hard to admit that OLDER is in FACT what you are. Subtle physcial changes mock the youth of your mind. WE laugh really hard in this house over my statement... 'In my OWN mind'... Like in my own mind I told you what would happen... 'In my OWN mind' I can hike around like I did a year ago. But in REALITY... I just can't do it. It is most embarassing to have family and friends know how limited I am these days (I am 48 by the way) and recently diagnosed with Sjogren's and they think I have rheumatoid arthritis... so I have lost the quality of life I had even a year ago.

I can't even spend the day taking care of my grand-kids without paying for it. It totally wipes me out.

Thank you for sharing the important message... that its not so much what we can DO physically but what we KNOW in our hearts and minds.

ToOdLeS.

Gerry Adams said...

Happy Birthday Steve! I just turned 54 my self.

Judy said...

Amen. Jesus is my Savior, and it's such a comfort to hear/read of other's faith in Him.

I Live in an Antbed said...

AMEN! Thank you for declaring your faith boldly!!! It is the most important thing we can ever tell anyone.

Would you consider linking this up? I host a little tiny link-up on Fridays where I encourage people to "write a page in their Heritage of Faith," telling how God has shown Himself Faithful. Psalm 78. If you'd rather not, that's fine. I just think your words would bless. Thanks again!

In case you want to, here's the info: http://iliveinanantbed.blogspot.com/2011/07/tomorrow-is-link-up-day.html

Montanagirl said...

Happy Birthday, Steve. I'm 10 years your senior...I look in the mirror and think "Who is this stranger looking back at me? Where did my youth go?" I'm still here, maybe not getting older, but getting better! You have a really well written post here.

NikonSniper said...

Hello "I Live in an Ant Bed",
You may use these words for His glory any way you wish.
NikonSniper Steve

prince snow farm said...

Your boys will just be thrilled to get their ole dad out their tossin the ball :) Get out of your head and enjoy the moment. You youngster you.

Ruth said...

When I first stated reading this I wanted to cheer you up. By the time I finished I felt blessed and cheered up. Thank you. Enjoy your birthday.

Brandee Shafer said...

Happy Birthday! You are definitely solid on the most important Thing (Person), and I appreciate your message, here. Your sons are blessed to have you and will appreciate any and all time you spend together, even if your arm's not what it used to be. Blessings to you.

child of God said...

Happy Birthday Stephen! 53 years young. :)

Praying for a very strong arm for you while tossing that ball.

Never give up, ever!
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WPgirl said...

Happy Birthday Steve! Hope you're having an awesome day. God Bless You.

Christine said...

Happy Birthday. Enjoy the time . . . maximize the time. Every moment is precious and fleeting.

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday from Athens, Greece. May time and life continue to treat you kind.

Lokelani Forrest said...

Hmmm...I left a comment for you yesterday but its not appearing. Maybe I thought I did...anyway. I want to commend you for speaking out boldly for Christ. I took an excerpt from this post to add to my post as it said what I believe so clearly. I love the Lord and know that I should say it more often than I do. Thanks for the encouraging words. Hope you don't mind.

Kat Markle said...

Hello! I am so glad that you were born Steve! Celebrate the you! I am so sorry if this is late, but "Happy Birthday 53 year old Steve. Know that you have all the Steve's of all the ages that you have ever been, right inside of you all the time. We are that infant born long ago~ whose skin just grew and grew, then started aging...

I am 56 now, June 22! EEEEKKKKKKKK!!!! I hate it, but what can I do about it? I can say I accept it just for today because I am powerless.

My husband of 39 years and I are always talking about all that you wrote. I feel as if I did write most of it, word for word! Eerie! ;P Seriously, we are baby boomers. We are here at our autumn in life...and we will be very colorful of oranges, yellows, browns and goldens...in this autumn...that you, too, will walk along side us or behind us, in those.leaves...

I stop by once in a while and read your stuff, look at the beautiful photoS. Thanks!
HUGSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!
Kat, who else? LOL

Elaine said...

I'm just catching up on blog reading as I've been busy the last week. I hope you had a happy birthday on the 29th! I certainly did--July 29th is my birthday too, only I'm a tad older than you. Not quite the 14 years you talked about, but 13 instead. Trust me when I say that each year just brings more surprises, little things that no one tells you about but are very annoying. Still I'm happy to still be here and enjoying the beautiful world that God gave us. Now get out there and throw that football with your sons. No, it's not easy and your body doesn't do what your mind tells it to, but it's still a wonderful sharing time with your sons. They won't care if you throw the ball 50 yards or 10 years. They'll just be happy to be out there with their dad. I can speak with a little experience as I played hockey with my daughters until three years ago when I had a knee replacement. Now I have trouble getting up off the floor let alone the ice so I just go to watch or corral my granddaughter at the rink. I wouldn't trade that shared time with my daughters for anything. So let your sons laugh at you if they must, but you can laugh too, because you know that their time will come. You still have many things left to teach them.

Happy Belated Birthday!